What best describes you: more likely to tell it like it is, or to hold your tongue? Each has its value and place. The wisdom is in knowing which to be and at the appropriate times.
One thing I have learned from reading about the early Muslim women, is that they very often did both. They were both fierce and feminine; never crass.
What does this mean for us who hold those women as role models? And what has been the impact of growing up in a turn the other cheek culture upon our Islamic identity? Or the implications of the every man for himself world view that some hold?
The tell-it-like-it-is types may need to practice meaningful sustained silence more often—think rose petals. And the hold-your-tongue types may need to take more (thought out) opportunities to speak up—think rose thorns.