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Dear Sweet Peas,

There are those who do not care if they harm others. Pay attention to such attitudes if you happen to hear about them from others or in the media.

Determining whether or not someone should be pardoned requires investigation. Are you firm enough to demand that in court no matter the country? If you are not, what is your plan to secure your rights?

Journal how you can strengthen your emotional willpower to keep yourself and your family from falling victim to the forcefulness or manipulation of others—may Allah protect us from such people.

Write about one benefit you gained from this week’s reading.


Shaikh Muhammad bin Saalih Al-’Uthaimeen
Good Manners when Dealing with the Creation
The Meaning of Extending Kindness
Part 4 — An Important Note

I would like to take this opportunity to point out something that many people do today with the intention of being good and sympathetic. And it is that when a person gets into an accident and as a result another person dies, the guardians of the deceased come and revoke the blood-money that is owed by this offender that committed the accident. So is their canceling of the blood-money praiseworthy and considered as being from good manners or does this issue have more detail to it?

There is more detail required on this issue. We must reflect and ponder on the condition of this offender who has caused this accident. Is he from among those people who are known to be careless and inconsiderate? Does he fall into the type of people that say: “I don’t care if I run over somebody on the road because I already have his blood-money prepared inside my desk” and we seek refuge in Allaah!

Or is he someone who has fallen into an accident even though he employed complete discretion and complete poise and balance, but in spite of this Allaah had already decreed all things to come to pass?

If he falls under the second category of people, then forgiving him is better.

However, even if he does fall under this second category of prudent and well-poised people, before we forgive him, we must look to see if the victim has any debt he owes.

If the victim owes a debt, we cannot forgive the offender. And had we already pardoned the offender, the pardon would be dismissed. This is an issue that perhaps many people are unaware of. We say this because the heirs will assume entitlement of this blood-money from the victim that was killed in an accident, and their entitlement will not be satisfied until they pay back the deceased’s debt if he owed someone money.

This is why when Allaah mentions inheritance, He says: “(The distribution in all cases is) after the payment of legacies he may have bequeathed or a debt (he owes).” [Surah An-Nisaa: 11]

The point is that forgiving people is part of good manners and it falls under the realm of extending kindness to others. This is since extending kindness can either be in the form of giving something or in the form of revoking something, and pardoning falls under revoking something.

Previously, The Meaning of Extending Kindness–Part 3 Forgiveness Not Always Best