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For women every where.



from The American Frugal Housewife
by Mrs. Lydia Maria Child
published in 1832

But what time do modern girls have for the formation of quiet, domestic habits?

Until sixteen they go to school . . . too often they are spent in acquiring the elements of a thousand sciences, without being thoroughly acquainted with any. As soon as they leave school, (and sometimes before,) they begin a round of balls and parties . . . Dress and flattery take up all their thoughts.

What time have they to learn to be useful? What time have they to cultivate the still and gentle affections, which must, in every situation of life, have such an important effect on a woman’s character and happiness?

As far as parents can judge what will be a daughter’s station, education should be adapted to it; but it is well to remember that it is always easy to know how to spend riches, and always safe to know how to bear poverty.

A superficial acquaintance with such accomplishments as music and drawing is useless and undesirable.

By these remarks I do not mean to discourage an attention to the graces of life. Gentility and taste are always lovely in all situations. But good things, carried to excess, are often productive of bad consequences. When accomplishments and dress interfere with the duties and permanent happiness of life, they are unjustifiable and displeasing; but where there is a solid foundation in mind and heart, all those elegancies are but becoming ornaments.

Making the education of girls such a series of ‘man-traps,’ makes the whole system unhealthy, by poisoning the motive.

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to be continued insha’Allah

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